If ignorance is bliss, then freedom is just not giving a shit anymore.
I have done it, you have done it, we all do it at some point in our lives – we seek fulfilment and self-validation through other people’s approval as though this might provide some freedom or sense of self-worth but it rarely if ever does. We find ourselves living our lives in a world in which most of the value systems and normative expectations upon us are constantly changing and shape-shifting, even as we are attempting to adjust and accommodate this relentless metamorphosis.
The truth is – there was never any baseline of cultural and behavioural, self-representational normality or psychological security from which we (or anyone, for that matter) might have acquired or maintained any consistent and enduring sense of peace or happiness. The more attach ourselves to external expectations and then layer them like onion-skins upon the core and essential vacuum of our being, the more we distract and destruct any plausible aspiration to happiness we might ever have possessed.
True happiness is not obtained through conformity. It is found in the unique crystal of genetic and existential peculiarity and uncommon beauty that we each and all embody.
Try not to give a shit about anything. That’s probably the only way to really care about yourself and other people and regardless that this seems to make no sense at first pass – it is true. Detachment from external expectations is the fast track to escaping the labyrinthine complexity of psychological unhappiness. It’s all really a bit zen – you don’t need anyone else’s approval and once you realise it, you no longer even need you own.