Love is an experience and representation from inner to outer, from system to environment and from self to other. It is that direction and momentum that inversely generates and cultivates the experiencing “I” or loving person in reflexive self-definition through their relationship to that other. Imaginary hypotheses of “other” are metaphysical fictions no less than the “self” which is foundationally and reflexively anchored upon it.
Regardless of the semantic overlays and cognitive (i.e. linguistic) or cultural (a.k.a. narrative) intuitions we assert and project upon an experience of love – minds are quite poorly-equipped to differentiate between positive and negative orientations towards this same “other” world. Love and hate become inextricably bound because they are at first an orientation towards an other an only later a qualitatively-inflected reference or representation.
Similarly, at the deepest levels of conscious or sentient experience, minds are unable to differentiate between “separate” minds anywhere near so well as they are able to identify the existence of mind itself. No surprise then that the world is such a hot mess of emotional confusion and complex neuroses – systems of interpreted value are ambiguous overlays.